Feeling the temperature of this city

Hometown is such a warm place —- when we are branching out like a tree, there is still so much root in this place. People from here all speak the same dialect. Then in the streets, in parties, you found this person was my classmate, that person is my mom’s friend’s daughter; this one is the one we worked together as a kid and that one, we never met but we went to the same high school and shared the same teachers.

This week, I attended a book-signing event, hosted in a trending book store in the city.

The author Lin was my mentor and teacher while I was working in a local news paper as a student. Many of my old friends who worked in the same “young journalist group” also came. We haven’t met close to 30 years, and only surprisingly found we really did not change much.

Lin moved to US about 16 years ago with her son. Since then, she wrote and published 10 books about her experience in US. The recent one is about the motocycle ride experience in Cuba. Her American husband has a hobby of touring and riding bikes across continents so he planned this trip for celebrating their 10 years’ anniversary to Lin’s favored place Cuba. They started their ride on 2/14. How romantic!

This is my first book-signing event and I don’t know what to expect. Lin told a few interesting stories about Cuba. In Cuba, doctors wear their white uniforms even off duty. They visit patients periodically and make sure they are taking medications and well taken care of by the family. Hospitals publish ages of the oldest patients the doctors take care of, as an honor.

Lin also talked about her love and thoughts of writing and her experience of visiting the old house of her dream lover Ernest Hemingway in Cuba. She said that “there are many ways people explained why Hemingway killed himself. But my favorite is that he killed himself because he no longer can write. As a writer, I feel that pain of not being able to write anymore.”

Then some of her friends went up to the stage and talked about our friendship with Lin and our thoughts about writing and her books. Those friends are also famous authors that I used to only see names in book stores and news papers. A funny story here, I dug out 30 years old news paper and found in one column where I edited, there was this article written by a high school student now he is a very famous author and he was in the book-signing event. We met in person for the first time. After 30 years, we “reunioned”.

When I got the mic, I said “writing is a discovery, as you write, write, the ideas flow out naturally. The ‘eye’ of a good work is the ideas/thoughts you discovered” I also said that hope all of you can take something home today, like me, I am totally inspired by the good conversations of writing and hope to work on something as a start point of today.”

Later, I read the blog posts of those famous writers and enjoyed their comments:
意犹未尽: not have enough
以书会友:meet friends through books (one of the authors who wrote children books delivered four of her books the second day to our apartment. I told her I will send them to US and translate them to children there).
那些难以抵达的地方都在书里见: arriving at the places we can not go via books

Lin said “hope we never throw away our pens” and she said she hope to write a book with us, about our young journalist group and about our grown-up stories. When we talked about translating books, surprisingly we found that we have people who can speak English, Germany, Spanish and French.

As we grow up, it’s always the childhood stories that ring the bells of our heart. As a lover of words, I certainly will enjoy their different ways of telling these stories and reunions.

Japan (3) Tokyo food II

Ramen: some streets in the Ginza area have a collection of ramen noodle restaurants. Often you see a line outside the stores. The two Korean girls in front of me in our line told me that “this restaurant is famous on the Internet, so we came. It’s our first time. Right after food, we will go off to catch the plane going back to the Korea”. We were chatting about our travel experience of Tokyo. The girls were recommending me their favorite snack they bought. Through the chats, the lines moved quickly.

The store is small and we order through a machine at the entrance to select choices of meat and side dishes. The vibe eating at the counter is exactly same as the Japanese restaurants in New York City.

Yummy food came in 2 minutes. The food is not super but a very pleasant experience.

Golden Nai: Near the red light district, there are two sections of street food and bars. People call this area Golden Nai. It is not only the place to find the tasty food and drink but also to experience the special Japanese culture — small streets, small bars with only being able to accommodate a few people.

map of all the bars in this section

Some small bars have live music and some bars only serve members. When we were here around 8pm, it seems not to be crowded, but we heard that late at night, there will be more people coming over to drink.

Another section of Golden Nai is mostly for food, especially skewers. When we were there around 8pm, the streets were already full of people. This section looks newer and more modern, and have great vibes.

The stores are small and people sit at the counter. Every store has some uniqueness. The food looks super yummy. I did not see many long lines.

Traditional Japanese cuisine: Omakase means “I’ll leave it up to you” or “I trust you, chef”. It is one of my favorite fine dining experience. It comes in small and beautiful dishes like this.

The place we went is called Minemoto. A lot of items on their drink menu look interesting. We heard that the famous ones are whisky highballs and Kamakura Beer.

Here are 10 or 11 courses of different ways of Japanese cooking. I often try to cook similar dishes at home when I tasted something yummy on my trips.

Nowadays, I go back to Tokyo, I don’t schedule many things ahead. There are so many artsy shopping and tasty food anywhere. It is easily having a great day when you are out.

Japan (2) Tokyo food I

Kyoto was Japan’s capital and now is Tokyo. The east of Tokyo is the old part of the city like in Asakusa, and there are many temples and shrines. The famous one is Sensoji (浅草寺). Then there is this Ginza area, a relatively old shopping district. The famous Tsukji fish market is nearby, and so do the famous department stores like Ginza six (三越百货). After some earthquakes, the west side of Tokyo such as Shinjuku and Shibuya becomes important. Shibuya has this world business Shibuya crossing and the sky observatory. Shinjuku has the largest subway station. Current Japanese government office buildings are located here. You go out to Shinjuku at night 10 or 11pm, the streets are full of people who were wandering, eating, drinking and having fun.

Traditional Japanese breakfast: Ginza Choshoku Lab is located at the second floor of hotel Musse near Ginza. The breakfast here is a 2-hours buffet. It is a very popular place so you will need to make reservations. Their online reservation website only accepts Japanese characters’ names; I have to randomly copy some Japanese characters from the Internet to fill my first and last names to book successfully :). The food and drink here are good, but it looked better than it actually tasted.

Tsukji fish market: Last time, when I visited Tokyo in 2012. Tsukji fish market was still super big and was selling large fresh fish and other seafood. Nowadays, the “fish market” was moved out of the city and only food stands and shopping stores remained. Remember to prepare 100-200$ cash as here some food stands only take cash.

The famous gyudon beef rice bowl. The line is very long but it moves fast. The waiting time probably is 10-15 minutes.

You stand outside to eat. It tastes good but it is not a big deal if you missed it. But still I would visit here again.

This is a little food stand, where I came for fish. Coincidentally my high school classmate and his family were visiting here the day before I arrived at Tokyo, and he recommended me this place. The fish indeed is really good.

The staff was cutting slices of sashimi right out from a fresh fish at the counter.

There are all sorts of food here. You will need to stop losing weight for a day 🙂

Wagyu beef set: Wagyu is tender, fresh and importantly cheap in Japan. Walking along Ginza and Shinjuku streets, there are a lot of advertisement about such restaurants. I randomly selected one called “black hole” in Shinjuku. It turned out cheap (about 67 something dollars) and very good. The food arrived at the table very quickly too.


Pufferfish/Blowfish: This type of fish is rarely served in restaurants because it is poisonous if not processed properly. Not many restaurants in the world have certified chef that can serve this type of fish. Even so, I heard there were a couple of people died every year in Japan from eating such fish. That evening, my academic friends and I were exploring the Golden Gai area for food and ran into this store, called “Japanese-made Tiger Blowfish Specialty Shop”. We all screamed “blowfish!”

The restaurant does not have a scary halloween atmosphere. From the window, people seem to be drinking and smiling relaxly. There was no waiting at all. We had the entire table immediately and food arrived soon. We ordered a set menu to share. It consists of variety of cooking styles such as hotpot/soup, porridge, grilled, sashimi, sake (soaked with dried blowfish fins).


I love Tokyo so much that I plan to go there often. Like this summer, I will drop by Tokyo again on my way to China and hang out with my son.


Japan (1) Tokyo Shinjuku Kabukicho: the red light district

The red light strict is located at the heart of Shinjuku. There were so many people walking around in this area even it was late at night in an ordinary week day. I went there twice, once with my academic friends and the other time with Paulo and his folks. Paulo was born in Malaysian but now live in Tokyo, so he knew stories related to the red light district, from his friends, and his friends’ friends.

Along the main street, the top ranked hosts are advertised on the street bill boards. They made more money then I do monthly. Paulo said that currently, Japanese women like thin, feminine looking guys. So some hosts went for cosmetic surgeries to boost their careers.

Unfortunately, this one in the bill board failed the cosmetic surgery. Stories happen in this industry. Paula said sometimes the customer fell in love with her regular host, then drama happens between love and money.There was a recent crime related to this.


I was told that the prostitution is illegal in Japan but if the actual activities do not happen in the shops, the police will not come to arrest you. Additionally, due to the high rent in the main street, the actual service rooms are located in the back streets or high rises in the nearby buildings. There are sales who will spot potential customers at the exit of the train stations and on the streets, and then take you to the buildings.

You think there will be only lonely-looking men or rich and old women who come here for service? No, young girls in their twenties and early thirties come here often and quite some of them come here regularly. Of course, there are also birthday parties and bacheloress parties happening. Their service is diverse. For example, you can order a co-bath/shower service only for 200 dollars but that gets you a 40+ man; with 400 dollars, you can have a 20+ man — it sounds hilarious.

Guys have many choices also. You can do window shopping at the Girls Bar Milky,

or select a favored girl to do some role play, from a girl friend up till a wife, from going out for a dinner to going home to sleep together — as short as a night or as long as months (if you are rich :)).

Down the street, you see the hand job service advertisement stands besides the advisement for the ramen noodle shop 🙂

Besides sex industry, several shops on the street offer drinking buffet. You will hear many sales standing on the street to pull you in. Paulo said sometimes these buffets can be tricky– they did not list certain types of drinks in the buffet menu, and then after you drink it, the shops charge you a lot of money. The whole streets are mixed with also many other shops like restaurants and snack stores. You see a lot of tourists and even kids.

I was told that those people standing in the street are the sales. They left my groups alone for twice when I went there, it must be that I look more like a journalist than a customer 🙂

Such an adventure to explore here. It totally satisfied my curiosity. I think if it is not for health reasons, it might be fun to try some services 😀 Then oh well, I never found those feminine guys attractive, haha



Bahamas (3) Staniel Cay – flying into the Staniel Cay

Staniel Cay is small (5km^2) and remote (75 miles away from Nassau), and gives a feeling of a private island. We booked a tour with Staniel Cay Adventures, which makes a one-day visit possible. There are a lot of private jets arriving here every day. Although the island has a population of less than 118 full-time residents according to the wiki, there are vacation houses where the rich people from USA flying in with their family and friends from time to time. One of the locals was talking to me at the airport while she was waiting for a US family “I work for a vacation villa here, and the family came in 6 times last year with their private jet”. Wow! You can also come here by yourself by booking the regional airlines, finding the resorts, hotels and lodges on this island, and then ordering tours to go out to the nearby islands.

Bahamas airlines — the names sound relax and local, do they? 🙂 I heard from the local that FlamingoAir is often delayed when flying back from Staniel Cay.

airport playground

It’s my first time to take small airlines of 20ish people. It’s quite exciting!

The views from the airplane are gorgeous. It’s almost like we were taking a helicopter tour of the Bahamas islands—crystal clear water, harmonic green blue, white sand bars, beautiful curves of the coast …

Staniel Cay airport is very windy. With so much cross-wind, the pilot lands the aircraft on one wheel. It took about half an hour to arrive here from Nassau; however, when we went back, the high-wing plane flies much lower and slower, and it detoured towards the big island of Bahamas, so the flight almost took close to 2 hours.

arrival (see the little heart on my phone :D)
the view of arrival 🙂

Sitting in the terminal, you embrace the warm island winds in the face.

This raw island has a lot of nature and local stuffs.

The dock is 5-minutes walk away from the airport. Our guide picked us up at the airport and our boat was already waiting.

Bahamas (2) Pink Sand Beach

I have been to many beaches, but my favorite is this pink sand beach. It is so romantic and I almost believe that all the proposes should happen here —- there are these endless pink sands, the blue green ocean, the rolling white foams, crystal clear water that hug your angles … You just think “wow, the beauty of the earth and the nature has no limits!” The word of “romantic” automatically jumps into your mind.

Rosy like your cheeks

Here are some examples of other beaches I have visited. What is your favorite colored beach?

Yellow Beach @ Outer Banks

white beach @ Aruba

black beach @ the Big Islands, Hawaii

The pink sand beach is located on the Harbor island and at the edge of the islands of Bahamas, facing the Atlantic ocean.

You can get there by ferry from Nassau, which only runs on Friday, Saturday and Sunday. In the morning, the ferry leaves around 8am or 8:30am from Nassau so you will arrive at the Harbor island around 11:00 to11:30am. In the afternoon, the ferry leaves the Harbor island around 3:40pm and reach Nassau 6:30-7pm. It costs around 225 dollars per adult passenger. If you go with some tourists group, it costs close to 500 dollars for a day. I heard that there is also an option of flying over. Anyways, this island is not easy to reach.

The ferry is cold and no external food/drink allowed. But you will travel with a lot of locals. The ferry first stops at the Spanish Well and then arrives at the Harbor island.

These islands are full of this classical freshmen town’s vibe, which I like a lot. I am not very into those luxury resorts’ vibe :D, and they are just too similar.

As soon as we got off the boat, there were some locals walking towards us and asked if we want to rent a golf cart for $50 a day. This person took us to a local bank and got the cash and then pointed us the direction to the beach. The golf cart is the major transportation on this 7 miles long island for the tourists, although the locals do drive their cars around.

The island has a lot of restaurants, even ones at the beach, and also a cute grocery store. The beaches have a lot of chairs, so it is pleasant to stay here to read, enjoy the wind, tread the water or ride some horses.

Besides staying at the beach, I also enjoyed driving the golf cart around the town to explore the interesting local village called the Dunmore Town. See what I have just found? the Daddy D’s Night Club! wow, hope I can check it out at night and see who is that “D” :D?

They say “here is the home of friendly people”!

At the opposite side of the village, there are a few private, luxury resorts with tennis court and so on. When we arrived at Nassau, it’s already quite dark.

It’s a busy day to visit a remote island. Yet, this island is like a fairy tale impressed in our memory. That romance still stays between the breaths.

Bahamas (1) the Atlantis Water Park

Atlantis is a luxurious resort on the paradise island in Bahamas. Their water park is ranked among the 10 top in the world according to some critiques :). It is surely my favorite water park I have visited so far. To access it, you don’t have to live in the resort, and you will just need to buy an Atlantis day pass by calling 1-800-285-2684 or visiting their website. The ticket costs about 300 dollars for an adult and $250 for a kid. It can be canceled a few days prior.

The water park is very big and has beautiful views. We stored everything in the lock and just worked around bare feet. Even during the holidays, it is not busy at all and with very good lines (1-2 minutes wait for the most of the rides). Their rides are very novel and comfy. It is fun and feels good. Here are their highlights:

Beautiful views:

Rapid river: it is a one-mile long “river”. Unlike lazy rivers in most of the water parks, the rapid river takes you to sections of rapids, caves and some tide waves. It has 9 entries/exists.

Beautiful views along the river
Elevator ride
the waves are coming

Slides: there are two big buildings for water slides, a total of 8 or 9 courses. Our favorite of course is to slide into the shark tanks in a dark tube. There are also jungle slides, challengers, the leap of faith (almost 90 degree drop) and the surge. There are two slides which will lead you into the shark tanks. When you come down from the surge slide, you will then enter the rapid river and it will carry you to the entry of the surge so you can continue.

Pools: The park has different themes. Some have waterfalls and some have Jacuzzi. In December, it is still chill when you come out of the slides, so we dipped in the hot Jacuzzi pools from time to time. Of course, another fun place is to play water falls.

We were playing in the water falls

It probably need a whole day to explore the entire water park. We started mid-morning and did not finish all the slides at 5pm when the park is closed. There are towels and showers in the park. So you pretty does not need to bring things but sunscreens and maybe some cash/credit card for food.

Vacation Tips

My family is quite laid back and lazy, so 100% time I am in charge of our vacation. Nowadays, we know where and when we want to go for what types of vacation , so I book them way early, when I have time or when I am bored of my routine life—-at that time, all the tickets are still available and may be cheap too.

In the first day, we will be landing, picking up the rental car, finding the hotel, unpacking, having a comfy shower, and then going out for a good meal. Starting the second day, every other day, I typically do an interesting thing/excursion booked in advance. These are the things that are either time-sensitive or very important that you can’t miss. On the rest days, we will have no plans and play by ear depending on that day. Typically it will be either relax with books, writing, late morning breakfast and board games, or find a place spontaneously for exploration. It can be a national park, old city wandering, some local shops and restaurants told by a local taxi driver or a hotel receptionist.

Caribbean islands are my favorite destination for Christmas. They are located in the tropics and beautiful exotic plants (I just love running around with my tank tops, shorts and flip flops during my vacation). They have pleasant blue/green oceans and are the excellent snorkeling sites with many cute sea creatures. Many of them become independent from the colonies of European countries but also have their own interesting local cultures and food (very tasty). Island buildings are colorful and its architectures are influenced, for example, by English, dutch, Spanish or French colonizers. Island people are very friendly; they invent many fun things to do for your vacation, and can speak English well. It’s all super fun to me, no matter it is swimming in oceans and seeing sinked boats/tropic fish, or driving ATV/UTV in deserts and hiking around sugar plant ruins. Those countries are mostly US friendly. You almost don’t need any visa, and at many places you directly use dollars. There are US custom right on the islands, so you’ll need to prepare 3 hours for boarding your plane back to US (we almost missed our plane when back from Aruba).

I have been to the Virgin islands and St Thomas. They are elegant, nice and relax, but they are not as interesting compared to other exotic Caribbean countries. Similarly, I often don’t live in 5-star hotels where the food and resorts are super luxury. Instead, I like to live in villages hosted by the locals. Somehow I feel those dirty streets, rundownish buildings and local restaurants can bring in my Childhood memories, and I deeply understand where they are coming from.

Singapore (6) Marina Bay Sands

Marina Bay Sands is beautiful from every angle. My favorite place to view it is to walk along the Marina Bay Waterfront Promenade (on the way to the Merlion).

From Gardens by Bay
From Ferris Wheel

I lived in Marina Bay Sands when I visited Singapore in 2014, back from India and on my way to China. At that time, I had no idea that Marina Bay Sands is such a fancy hotel. My collaborator then just said “it is a good hotel, you can book it”, so I did. Wow, it turns out a super cool experience.

I lived on the high rise (16th or 19th? can’t remember) with a lot of space and big windows (considering this is Singapore and the space in downtown is very precious). The room faces the Merlion side so the view was of course memorable. I still remember that their customer service was instantaneous. The front desk picked up my call without even a ring. I was shocked and tried again, and indeed, it happened again. Another thing I remember clearly is their infinite pool. The guests of the hotel can go there any time, and the non-guests can also buy tickets to go to the rooftop. I was up there at night. It has beautiful views and New York vibe. People was there drinking and chatting. In 2014, that’s probably the first roof top infinite pool in the world. Unfortunately, some of my pictures on that trip are lost. I hate I can’t show you what it looks like 🙂

picture from Internet

It’s Fall again: Central Grove Orchard

Fall is a beautiful season —- high blue skies, colorful leaves, fruits heavenly hanged from the trees, families happily push around the pumpkins. Since my son was born, I took him to Central Grove Orchard every year, sometimes just us and sometimes with friends. I never felt it’s a baby sitting or a kid thing, and most of the time I am happily playing too. We love this orchard, because every detail here says the cheerfulness of the workers. Every one here smiles, and they build or create new fun things every year. It’s easily spending a day here. We see many families, couples, friends, and also big family reunions (one tip is to remember buy your tickets online, it can save you a couple of dollars per person).

Apple picking! The best time for apple picking is the beginning of October. The freshly picked apples are so tasty. We typically buy a bag of 1/2 and cost $11.95. Then you can pick whatever you want from the trees. My son waves an apple-pick stick like his secret weapon 🙂

Pumpkin picking! My son likes to pick pumpkins from the vines. It is the festivity of picking a pumpkin that worth us additional money and efforts, comparing to just buying one from the supermarket. It’s a good time to show off my muscles too, as you know, they are heavy 🙂 . Ah, ouch, the little thorns on the vine were poking me. I immediately used my hat to wrap around its stem.

Baby goats! This baby goat is only 2 weeks old. Like this lady, I was also holding her, so was my son. Our smiles are so big in the pictures. My son said that’s his favorite part of the day.

We were bottle feeding the baby goats (it cots $3 dollars).

More animals! The rooster was saying cock-a-doodle-doo at 5pm 😀 —- Everyone is hungry here.

Our favorite zip lines! I managed to record a ride! The wait is short and only 2-3 people ahead of us.

Big big slides! I remembered that at the first time we went, my son only can ride in my arms, and now he can enjoy doing everything by himself. Time flies!

Jumping pillows! Jump until you are out of breath 🙂

Favorite basketballs!

Making giant bubbles! Some kids were chasing bubbles. Me and other kids were making bubbles. The bubbles are enormous!

Hay Rides! I remember that one time, I took Julie to the hay ride. Her eyes were brighter and she got so excited (she is from New York, and only ride dirty trains most of the time :))

Train rides! You got to see more animals that are chilling under the sun, like alpacas and donkeys

Tractor rides! I barely fit into these tractors but still can ride it to chase my son 🙂

Many many games and animal shows! Just name a few: apple sling shot, sand pit, mazes, tractor pulls, duck races, face painting, balloon making …. They are all free. Those ladies are the volunteers and they make balloons for kids whole day!

Kids and animals are so healing. I was talking to this little one
“how old are you?”
“I don’t know”
“What’s your name?”
“Spiderman”
Kids are just angels 🙂

Every year, I come here, and I see beauty, humor, warm smiles, blue skies, sun and hopes! Our human life is supposed to be like this.

Foodstand where you can get the sauce by milking the cows 🙂